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Sunday, September 04, 2011

Tough Times Ahead

If you've been following me the last couple of days on Facebook you'll know that I'm going through a rough time.  I was called on Wednesday evening by my "baby" brother that my Dad had called an ambulance for my Mum.  I knew that she had not been feeling well for awhile.  That dizziness, ringing in her ears and nausea had slowly put her to bed more and more each day.  Slowly she was also eating less and less.  She had gotten so weak she couldn't take care of herself anymore, and it was time to strong arm her into getting some medical assistance.  Its very hard/damn near impossible to get my Mum to/near a doctor.  I've managed to do it in the past but I had an inkling that this time it would require an ambulance.

Not only is my Mum so weak she can't make it across a room without assistance, it has been discovered that there are issues with her liver.  She's already had a couple of tests, but now we're waiting on an MRI which I don't suspect will happen until Tuesday, its a long weekend and its one of those ones where the ambulances tend to be very busy.  My Mum is in a small-town hospital, and the only way to get her specific tests is to have her transported by ambulance into the city and a bigger hospital.  She already had to do this once for her first two tests.  There are moments where her sense of humour still peeks through, after her first tests she mentioned that she was a little tired of waking up in different places.

Mum does keep hoping she's going home soon, but I think its going to be awhile.  We've been dividing up the visiting hours among us to make sure that Mum isn't alone for long.

So life has kinda gone on hold for now, I am continuing going into work and spending the evenings in the hospital.  I'll save my days for when I'm really needed, for when Mum comes home.  Very little stitching is going on, and I don't think the wedding sampler I'm working on will be ready for Saturday, the 10th.  Also I don't know if I'll be able to go to the wedding, it depends on how Mum is doing and if I feel comfortable being a 2 hour drive from her.  I could of also been at one of our wonderful stitchy weekends this weekend, but again I didn't want to be 3 hours from home, nor do I think I would of enjoyed myself or been good company.

That's where things stand for now, I'm skipping out on setting goals for this month cause I don't think I'll even be able to accomplish a single one.  I do get a few stitches in when I can, and when I'm not so exhausted that I just want to crawl into bed.

Its not easy having an ill parent.

61 comments:

Erica said...

Oh Dani!
I am so sorry you are going through all this! Having been through it myself with both parents, I know only too well the stress it can place you under.
I will keep you in my thoughts.
I hope for the very best outcome for your mother.

Lisa said...

Just {{{hugs}}}

Giovanna said...

Hugs, Dani - I'm dreading the idea of having to face times like you are facing now, and it's far too early for you. All the best, and do take care of yourself too.

staci said...

{{HUGS}} Dani. I'm so sorry that your mum is so ill. Sending lots of hugs and prayers that she is soon on the mend. Be sure to take care of yourself too.

Heli said...

*hugs* I hope you remember to take care of yourself too. I wish a lot of strength to you and your family, and hope that your mother starts getting better soon.

Silverlotus said...

You will both be in my thoughts, Dani. Remember to take care of yourself as well.

Christine said...

Many good thoughts coming your way that your mom is well again soon! (((Hugs))) for you.

Cath said...

Hope things improve for you and your mum soon. Take care ,and look after yourself too .X

Ruth said...

Dani I am so sorry to hear about your Mum, I shall say some prayers for her. It is never easy having those we love ill and unwell but I think when its someone who has always been strong in our lives it makes it especially hard. I think your right to take this month as it comes and do what feels right. Take care and remembering both you and your Mum.

jane said...

I hope that things improve for your mum soon, take care of yourself.

Heidi said...

So sorry to hear that your Mom isn't well. Praying for a quick recovery for her! And rest and comfort for you as well!

Lesleyanne said...

So sorry to hear your mum is unwell Dani. Sending hugs and hope she gets well soon.

Teresa said...

So sorry about your mom. My prayer are with you and your family. Try taking some stitching with you on your visits. It will help calm you and make time go by.
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Doris said...

I'm so sorry that your mum is ill, i hope is well soon.Take care of yourself too.{{{hugs}}}

Chris said...

Dani,
Sending good thoughts and wishes to you and your Mum. Hope she is well soon.

Nic said...

((((hugs))))

Katrina said...

sending many good thoughts your way Dani, hugs. I hope your Mum is better soon.

Michele said...

So sorry to hear about your mom Dani ... hope it all works out good! hugs

Joanie said...

Very sorry to hear about your Mum, Dani! I'll keep her in my prayers. Take care of yourself and be good to yourself too.

Katie said...

Take care, I hope your mom is on the mend soon!!

Von said...

Sympathetic hugs coming your way, Dani. It's very difficult seeing your parents go through a bout of ill health, I know. Praying that the docs find out what's wrong and she recovers quickly.

Terri said...

Hugs and prayers for you and your family.

valerie said...

So sorry to hear about your mom. I hope that she has a speedy recovery and starts to feel better real soon.

Barb said...

Sorry to hear about your mom. It sounds like she may have 2 or 3 different problems going. I definitely know what the first issues you mentioned is about I have those same problems, has she been diagnosed with Vertigo? That is miserable and yes you do feel weak and need help in moving and yes you do want to stay in bed. Fortunately it goes away for awhile but sometimes takes a long time believe me one spell lasted several months for me. I hope they can take care of her liver issues. Keep us posted.

Deborah said...

Dani, sorry to hear about your Mum. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family for a speedy recovery.

Mary said...

Hugs!! I will keep your mom and your family in my prayers. I hope she gets stronger soon.

Rachael xxx said...

I hope your Mum improves, it is hard when your parent falls ill, My Mum suffered two heart attacks recently and it was hard going especially when they are stubborn as well!!

Aussie Stitcher said...

Dani, I am so sorry that you are going through this difficult time. I hope that your Mum starts to feel better soon. Take care of yourself, Love and ((((HUGS)))).

Sally said...

Dani sending lots of hugs and positive thoughts for you both. I hope your Mum feels better real soon.

Lillie said...

So sorry that your mum has taken ill. My prayer for her fast recovery. Take care n hugs!

natalyK said...

Sorry to hear about your mom. I hope she is feeling better soon. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts.

Bekca said...

So sorry to hear about your Mum Dani, here's wishing her a speedy recovery.

Beauty Bonnet said...

Oh, I am so sorry to hear about your mom's illness!
I'll pray for a good prognosis and a speedy recovery for her.. I hope she gets better real soon!

Bette said...

Dani, I am so sorry to hear about your mother's medical issues. It is so hard to care for someone with health issues. Please take care of yourself as well. That is one of the best things you can do for her. I'll be praying that things turn out well for her.

Christine said...

Sorry you are going through tghis Dani, I hope your Mum improves soon

Shebafudge said...

Hi Dani, I am so sorry to hear about your mum. I will keep her in my thoughts and prayers. How is your dad bearing up?

I hope she is on the mend soon. x x

Annie said...

Sending a big hug your way. Hope things improve soon.

Hazel said...

Oh Dani I am sorry to hear your news. Sending big hugs to you and your family. x

Karen said...

Take care of yourself Dani. My thoughts are with you and your family. I hope your mom takes a turn for the better soon.

Shelleen said...

Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. My inlaws have had health problems as well, for a year now. I know how it is.

Vonna said...

Dani, I'm praying for your Mum for health in spirit, mind and body and also for you and your family for strength, stamina and peace.
Stay positive....
hugs and love,
Vonna

Kate said...

Sorry to hear that your Mum is unwell Dani. Hope the tests get things resolved quickly and she starts to improve.

Jo who can't think of a clever nickname said...

Sorry to heat about your Mum, hope she gets well as quickly as possible. Stitching in hospital can be very therapeutic - speaking from experience here :-(

Jenny said...

I am crossing my fingers for your mom! It is such a stressful time to sit and watch someone you love hurt without being able to do anything! Please don't forget to take care of yourself too - skipping goals and obligations sounds like a really good thing right now! Hugs!

Joyus said...

{{{{HUGS}}}}

Carol said...

Oh, Dani--I'm so sorry to hear things aren't well with your mom. I'm dealing with my dad's declining heath issues right now, too, and I know how the worry and concern can just drain a family... Sending you warm hugs and my best thoughts for your dear mother.

Anonymous said...

and prayers for you and your family from NS!

Stacey

Julie said...

Oh no- I hope she starts to feel better soon. Sending your and your family positive thoughts!

geeky Heather said...

{{{Dani}}} Prayers for your mum and your family (and your own strength).

Lynn said...

Just wanted to let you know that I've been praying for your Mum ever since Kathy filled me in on my arrival at her place. We all missed you and our thoughts are always with you. Drop me a note when you can with an update. I know you'll be spending most of your free time with her but if you ever need a break and want to get together let me know. Hang in there.

Rike said...

(((HUGS)))
Hope, your Mom's getting better soon.

Melanie said...

**HUGS**
I hope she gets better soon.

Cathy said...

Adding your Mom to my prayer list.

Heidi said...

((((( Dani )))))

I am so sorry to hear about how ill your mother is. It is very hard to see a parent very ill. I know all you can do is spend all the time you can with your parents at this difficult time. Being together gives comfort and strength.

Hugs from Holland ~
Heidi

Siobhan said...

((((((((((((((Dani))))))))))))))) I'm so sorry--your mother will be in my thoughts & prayers.

Alice said...

Many hugs for you Dani! I have been through this and I know how hard it is. You and your family are in my prayers.

Lana said...

::hugs:: I am keeping you,your family and your mom especially in my thoughts and prayers!!

Pointed Stitcher said...

Dani- Sorry to hear about your mom. Will keep you and your family in thoughts and prayers. Take care.

Karoline said...

Hugs {{{{Dani}}}} I shall keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers

Ginny said...

So sorry to hear about your Mom. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Don't forget to take care of you, too.
Hugs

mollycaff said...

Sorry I've only just seen this Dani, I've not been keeping up with blogs lately, but I just wanted to send my best wishes to you and your mum. I've been through a similar situation with my mum recently, so I understand how you must be feeling. I hope your mum's health improves very soon. Take care, Sandra x