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Friday, September 16, 2011

Quick Update

First of all I want to say thank you so much for all the prayers, wishes and positive thoughts for my Mum's health and recovery.  I've said it before, and I'll say it again stitchers are the most amazing and giving people in the world.  You all just proved that with your comments and personal e-mails I've received over the last two weeks

Sorry folks, there's no stitching here today... I've been lucky to get in a straight 15 minutes stitching in a week lately.  My wedding sampler was not delivered to the Groom and Bride this past Saturday.

Today is the start of the 3rd week of my Mum being in the hospital.  She is still not well.  After she was admitted to the hospital 2 weeks ago instead of seeing her get better and stronger, we slowly saw her condition worsening.  It got to the point where she needed assistance for every little thing, to eat, to drink, to even change positions in the bed.  That is the hardest thing in the world to see your parent so helpless! 

This past Sunday I finally got to "run into" Mum's Doctor and have a talk with her because we're all getting bits and pieces of information second hand from each other (my Dad and siblings).  Even she was starting to feel that the situation was not going to have a positive ending.  She still had yet to consult with the specialists in the city about my Mum's case as we only just had the final diagnostic test on Friday, and MRI.  So through more 2nd hand information through family the specialists have said that her condition is not as grave as we have all been thinking/feeling she may need a transplant but that information isn't clear yet if she really needs it/how badly its needed.  The Doctor is doing her best to deal with my Mum's illness and all the complications that kept popping up the first week and a half and she has been doing the exact same things the specialists would be doing for her in the city.

For the time being I am working full time (and work has been physically exhausting lately), spending 4 hours every evening with my Mum at the hospital, helping her with her dinner and trying to make her as comfortable as I can and do all those little things.  Some nights when I have the energy I make it out to a TKD class after being at the hospital since they're down the street from each other.

On top of this I'm trying my best to keep on top of commitments I've made prior to the shit hitting the fan.  I started a Run for the Cure team at TKD and I've hit the point where it requires paperwork/action on my part with some deadlines coming up.  Also I'm kinda sorta trying to fund raise to meet this year's goal of $1,000 but I just don't have the time to go at it with the enthusiasm I usually do (click on the meter on my sidebar to donate!).  I am going to attempt a 1/2 Marathon on Sunday, which all training went out of the window and I'm just aiming to finish it doing run/walk intervals.  So even though life gets tough, everything doesn't stop for you.

I have had two high points I went to my childhood friend's wedding and Christin and I saw Pearl Jam in concert.  At some point down the road I'll have pictures from both events to share with you!

Everyone, thank you for your support!

33 comments:

Stitchabilities said...

Huge hugs coming your way**HUGS**

Mouse said...

sending (((((HUGHHHHH HUGS)))) try and cut down to the bare minimum the other commitments otherwise you will be in the next bed to your mum babes ok ..... keep your chin up :) love mouse xxxxx

Sally said...

Lots of hugs and positive thoughts Dani. You take care of yourself too {{{{hugs}}}}

Chris said...

Thinking of you and your Mum.

jayne@~an eye for threads~ said...

We're all pulling some thread and crossing some stitches for you Dani. At times like these one does what they have to do and most people understand. I am sure the bride and groom get it, and your fund raising is still growing. and for the record, your stitching will be waiting for you whenever you can pull that 15 minutes of thread. You are where you have to be and we are all sending our love, prayers and thoughts to you and your family.
Be always where you need to be and I'll
be always in stitches.

Mad about Craft said...

Love to your Mum!

Look after yourself as you will no good to your Mum if you are ill!

riona said...

A parent's illness is an extremely stressful time and it's good that you are managing to do a few things just for yourself. But don't let some of your prior committments become anchors dragging you down ... when family crises hit, it is just fine to graciously pass a portion of the load to a friend or colleague. I'm betting some of your TKD friends have asked "What can I do for you now?" Maybe the answer should be, "Well, there's this paperwork and some fund-raising that I just can't get to right now?" I've been on both ends of this kind of conversation and sometimes the best gift you can give your friends is the opportunity to be genuinely helpful!

Carol said...

Oh, Dani, sending you a big hug... I do hope your dear mother improves each day. I can't even imagine the worry that you're going through after this hospitalization!

You are doing the right thing by putting her at the top of your list...your love and support will surely help her recover more quickly. Please know we're all thinking of you and your mom...

Vonna Pfeiffer said...

I am continuing my prayers for your mother...I hope that something happens soon to figure out what is wrong. How awful to have the stress of illness, but to not know what is causing said illness....praying for you all for peace and strength during this time.

Lesleyanne said...

Sending hugs Dani. Make sure you take care of yourself too. If you need to offload some of your committments then you should I'm sure everyone would understand. Take Care.

Lynn said...

I know just how exhausted you must be right about now. When Bob had his surgery and I was working fulltime and communting, I lost track of time. One day just ran into the other and I'd fall into bed each night.
Make sure you take care of yourself or you won't be any good to your Mum. A friend recommended I try a massage. It did a world of good, I came out of it relaxed and ready to take on the world again.
I'll continue to keep you and your Mum in my prayers. Hang in there, you're stronger than you think.

Anonymous said...

Iam thinking only good thoughts!!Take care of yourself.
Barb

Sew Wilde said...

Sending thoughts and prayers your way and to your mom!! It sound like she has wonderful support. Hugs to you.

Julie

Bette said...

Lots of love and hugs heading your way, Dani. Please remember, though, to take care of yourself as well because if you don't you will not be able to take care of your mum. Will still be saying prayers for you.

Giovanna said...

I'm so sorry that you're all going through this, Dani. More hugs, and take care.

Patty C. said...

Your in my prayers Dani
Hugs,

Cat Slave said...

Dani, you're a wonderful daughter. Know that you're doing the best you can for your mom. But do take care of yourself. She would tell you that.

Hugs coming your way and prayers for your mom.

Debby

Carmen said...

i hard times to your family, i really hope the health back soon, and please, please, take care you too.

Melanie said...

Sending good thoughts your way! *hugs* I hope things get better for all of you soon.

Aussie Stitcher said...

Thanks for popping in and keeping us all updated, I have been thinking of you. Take care of yourself Dani, and accept all and any help that is offered to you. (((((HUGS)))))

geeky Heather said...

{{{Hugs.}}} I don't have any words of wisdom or anything like that...just know we're praying for you.

Louanne said...

I haven't been keeping up with the blogs so this is the first I've seen this. I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom. It's never easy when a parent is sick. I'm keeping you, your Mom and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Sending you cyber hugs....

Heidi said...

((((( Dani )))))

Hang in there Dani and remember to take moments to take care of yourself. Keep hope in your heart!

Hugs from Holland ~
Heidi

valerie said...

Hang in there Dani! I hope you're mom begins to improve and things get better soon. *hugs*

mdgtjulie said...

Oh, Dani, I'm so sorry your mom is sick. I really hope she gets better ASAP. Do what you can, and the rest will have to wait if it can. I'll keep your family on my prayer list!!!

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. Please know that you are all in my prayers. Be sure to take care of yourself as well. (((hugs)))

Karen said...

Very sorry to hear the news about your mother and that she may need a transplant. I do hope things get easier for you and your family and am glad to hear that you had a little time for yourself and were able to get out to a concert. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Sharon said...

Dani, I am hoping and praying things will turn around soon for your mom. I know all how helpless and frustrating things like this can one feel! Take care!

Jo who can't think of a clever nickname said...

(((HUGS)))
As Riona said, accept all offers of help! Talk about it a little to each person, it really helps without leaning on one person so much.
Look after yourself too xx

Katrina said...

dear Dani, sending you lots of hugs, take of yourself :)

claudia said...

Continued prayers for you and your Mum. (((HUGS))) for you!
Keep your strength up too ya know!

Carolyn NC said...

So sorry that it's been moving so slowly with your Mum. Hope she improves and the drs. are able to help her get better. Hang in there and give yourself a little time to rest. :)

Wendy said...

Sending good thoughts to you and your Mum, Dani!